The kids had their League Championship on Jan 30th and it was a complete haul to get there. Since the competition is getting larger (more teams) - they have gone from a qualifier followed by the State Championship to a 3-meet plus League Championship and then States. That is just killer for the kids and us. It means that we have to have a working robot in six weeks instead of four months and then rebuild the thing every four weeks to add or significantly improve functionality. That is just madness - every rebuild is about 80 hours or more of work. Then add team dynamics to it - such as "It's David's Job, not mine" and you get a few things that had to be corrected - hence my general silence.
Teen sloth and others being more comfortable in their role than pitching in on the mechanical side ended up with my son and the other mechanical guy pulling 30-45 hour weeks. It had been really getting to me and I had been using the parents to goad the kids to try to improve the behavior of the 16-yr olds. Well, it came to a head and I totally freaked out when I found that my son was setting his alarm at 4 am to get up before school and do 2 hours of work everyday the week before competition as the time he was spending after homework and on the weekend (40 hrs) just wasn't going to get them ready. So his 40 hr weeks were turning into 50-60 hrs. Now I know that some parents are dealing with things like their teens sneaking out or not being where they are supposed to be - but I just can't deal with him missing out on his teen years doing a full time engineering job. It came to a head with five of them not showing up on time to team practice the night before the Championship as they didn't want to leave a pep-rally early. The missing kids were collected by a pretty pissed parent for me - everyone expected that they were already at my house. Bad teen decision... Luckily they still made it through the Championship to live another day, but I was a pretty upset person with what hadn't gotten done and how much was left on just a few shoulders.
So I had to do a major 'readjustment' of attitudes with 12 teens as well as working with the parents on it too. After I talked to the parents, I thought the robot team would be done in two weeks for good as they all realized that my son had already learned everything he needed in life and that it was now something that was harming him. But we all agreed that I owed it to them all to talk to them without him and explain why I was leaning towards dissolving the team in a few weeks. Give them a chance. If they all work as hard as he has been, they would really do well and he would not work as hard. Well, surprisingly, the kids who had been on the team the longest sat there with tears in their eyes as I revealed that their friend hadn't yet ever done some things they have done - like gone to a dance, learn to drive, go to a high school event, or other things like that. Never had the chance to get into trouble or make bad decisions like them. I wasn't sure how it was going to go - but they surprised me with their conversation on the matter. I agreed to suspend the decision until the end of the season and see if their epiphany lasts.
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I will be looking forward to the end of Robot Season - whenever it comes. But I guess secretly I am glad that they all decided so far to prioritize this above some of the other distractions that have gotten in the way. Guess I should be glad that my parental lectures are about things like supporting each other more and pitching in and not about staying away from drinking and drugs. Sometimes I can sit here and cut and pack metal threads while working with them and answering questions. And some have even taken over enough for my son that he has taken some needed time off. Lots and lots of lessons all around over the last two weeks.
Boy do I need a vacation!
Thistle Threads will be closed from tonight until the 22nd. And there will be no roboting either. Shipping will return on the 22nd, including the Stumpwork course.
WoW...You and yours HAVE been busy! Here's hoping that some real 'growing up' is happening. I have confidence that only good things will come of this.
ReplyDeleteWell good for you for lecturing the teens on the effect their laziness had on your son. I hope things go more smoothly from now on and you can make it to the end of the Robot season still sane. I hope you all have a nice, restful vacation away from all the snow.
ReplyDeleteYou know - the problem with teens is that they show great flashes of brilliance and adulthood and then do something dumb. So it is so hard to scream at them all because they are always out of sync - some really stepping up when others are falling down and then swapping. So it was a very difficult thing to validate the kids who had woken up and yet chastise them all to keep it up. If they are all truly lazy - we would have been done with this years ago. :-)
ReplyDeleteOh, goodness!! I don't know what to say except good job and hang in there. Wow.
ReplyDeleteMaureen S